Catholic DV Response Are you a Catholic woman who has experienced an abusive marriage? This blog is conducting a survey to find out what women like us are ACTUALLY hearing from priests and deacons. Both positive and negative, helpful and harmful, we want the data! One woman sharing her story alone is easily dismissed. But when we stand together? We have a VOICE! Once we have the data, we can begin working to improve the Catholic response to Domestic Violence. Your voice matters. Our goal is to survey 800 women! Please share this with anyone who might have been in an abusive Catholic marriage. This survey is anonymous. Please only take the survey once. (By participating in this survey, you are giving us permission to use your answers in papers, presentations, blog post, books etc. Including an (optional) story in the bottom field foregoes any copyright claim and gives us permission to use and publish stories to further this work. Safety is our first priority. We will always change any names or identifying characteristics. If you feel uncomfortable with your story being included in future publications, then please leave that last field blank.) ↓ SURVEY ↓ Are you a Catholic woman who is currently, or ever has been in a physically, emotionally, or sexually abusive marriage?YesNo Are you in the Archdiocese of Oklahoma City?YesNo If not, which diocese are you in? Has any priest or deacon, in confession, private pastoral counseling, or a homily, ever: (check all that apply) Encouraged you to seek safety? Correctly named your experience as abuse? Correctly named your sexual experience as sexual assault/rape? Put you in contact with civil authorities/agencies to help you get safe? Encouraged you to press charges or file for a VPO? Discouraged you from pressing charges or filing for a VPO? Believed you? Fact-checked your abuse claims with your abuser? Told you to be more submissive? Told you to have more sex? Told you it was your responsibility to help your husband become a better person? Told you it was God's will that you carry this cross? Sexually abused you himself, either verbally or physically, after you came to him with abuse claims? Accused you of lying? Told you he didn't want to get involved in private issues? Encourage you to reconcile with an abuser who was not demonstratively safe over a long period of time? Shamed or guilted you after you chose to separate or divorce an abusive spouse? How many priests, deacons, or parish/diocesan staff did you speak to about your situation (inside or outside confession) before finding help?The first time I spoke about my situation, I was helped to find safety.The second or third time I spoke about my situation, I was helped to find safety.It took four or more times speaking about my situation before I was helped to find safety.The church NEVER helped me find safety. I found civil/secular help, or created safety alone. After the first time speaking about your situation, how many years did it take you to find safety? (If you are still in the situation, how many years ago did you first speak about it?) (optional) Do you have a story you want to share? For those who were annulled, did the annulment process feel...Healing?Re traumatizing? Thank you so much for your help. Together, we are creating resources to improve the Catholic DV response. Time is Up!